Fast-forward 4 months later and the same girl you had a hard time connecting with has suddenly become nice and great company. What did you do differently? Nothing. Absolutely Nothing! You see the problem was that someone had gone to say stuff about you to the new lady. Make you look bad. See, seriously I don't know why some of us do that. It beats me. I still don't know the purpose of pulling someone down. Are you designed to have an enemy? The fact that you don't agree with a point of view doesn't make the personality that carries it bad. So there... time has passed... the person you wanted wailing is now soaring.
Ok... Ok... Ok... True! My biggest problem is with the person who has been gisted! You are new in an environment, school, yard(naija yard), office, church, choir...wherever and someone meets you and starts to tell you about this person and that person...this girl and that boy, that couple, her boyfriend, who he was, who he dated. That funny 'new friend' who has decided the 'show you around' has built a pyramid of stories. Some might be true, others exaggerated. So what if they are true? Do you have to build your perception around all that. Come on!!! Everybody deserves a chance.
I think it becomes more annoyingly awkward when you have let someone else's point of view be your starting point. Its should be simple, "Ok Sister, I've heard all you said. Now I'll know her for myself". That is so much easier for you to do. Don't hurt the potential for a great friendship just because you heard. People go through so much, you might just be the reason for gladness.
P.S: Now I didn't say ignore the amebo, listen well and sieve.
Keeping smiling abeg, life is so much easier.